A Story of Loss, Love and Life with Rachel Havekost

Episode Summary

In this inspiring episode of Resilience Agenda Radio, Hadleigh Fischer sits down with Rachel Havekost, author of Where the River Flows: A Memoir of Loss, Love, and Life with an Eating Disorder. Rachel opens up about her struggles with anorexia, panic attacks, and depression – and how these challenges shaped her approach to Mental Fitness and self-care.

Rachel’s powerful story is one of growth, vulnerability, and hope. She discusses the impact of group therapy, the importance of feeling seen, and how simple tools – like mindful breathing, journaling, and setting boundaries – can help us take control of our mental health.

Whether you’ve faced your own mental health challenges, know someone who has, or are simply looking for ways to strengthen your emotional wellbeing, this episode is packed with insights and inspiration to help you make Mental Fitness a way of life.

What You Will Learn

How to Recognize Mental Health Struggles Early – Rachel shares how her eating disorder began and the signs that were missed, offering insights into identifying issues before they escalate.
The Transformative Power of Group Therapy – Discover how hearing others’ stories helped Rachel feel less alone and inspired her recovery journey
The Importance of Rest and Emotional Regulation – Rachel explains why rest isn’t just a break but a vital part of productivity, emotional stability, and well-being.
How to Approach Difficult Conversations About Mental Health – Get tips on using curiosity and “I statements” to create safe spaces for loved ones to open up about their struggles.
Why Human Connection is Essential for Healing – Rachel highlights the science behind connection, explaining how relationships help regulate emotions and create a sense of safety.

About Rachel Havekost

Rachel Havekost

Rachel Havekost is the bestselling author of "Where the River Flows,” "Write to Heal,” "The Inner Child Journal,” "The Self-Healer's Journal,” and "The Grief Workbook.” With over 300k+ followers, Rachel uses her platform to de-stigmatize mental health and promote self-awareness through storytelling and practical tools.

Rachel holds an M.Sc. in psychology and infuses an evidence-based approach into her work, blending research with lived experience to create content that resonates deeply with her audience.

Memorable Quotes

"I learned skills to keep my brain in shape. I learned how to regulate my emotions, how to manage really distressing feelings, how to communicate more effectively, how to ask for help, and even how to say no."
“I finally understood that my mental illness was not me. It was something outside of me—and my brain, like a muscle, could be exercised and strengthened.”
"Learning to rest for me was actually what allowed me to become more productive because I wasn't burning out as often… I could race through life, but I’d end up exhausted and hurt. Rest has been a real game-changer."
"When I realized my body was powerful both in fooling me into thinking I was in danger and in calming itself down…That was so empowering."